Yep I’m outing this dude. He is dangerous. I now believe with all my heart that it is he who caused my publicity back in 2012/13. Ladies beware. He still frequents escorts. The reason I’m saying something now, is because I know of several other ladies who have experienced similar treatment by him, though not as severe as what he did to me. But his stalking knows no bounds. It escalates. I blacklisted him on the National Escort Blacklist site, but I don’t feel that’s enough.
He was a client. A charming client! I met him and thought, wow, NICE people do exist. There is hope for the planet!! 😉 Quite often sociopaths are the most charming and generous people you will ever meet. Tony would go out of his way to be overly generous with me, and I often wondered why he was willing to spend so much time with me at the expense of his own family. I allowed him into my life. He would even visit my home if he was in the neighborhood! We became friends! He met my kids at the time. He charmed them as well. My son even went to dinners with him, Timberwolves games and other fancy outings. He still tries to contact my son about once a month, who’s in his early 20s now. (He’s even, somehow, hooked up with my X and gone out with him.) Last week, he sent my son a picture of some scenery or some annoying nonsense….He won’t stop. He’s patient and persistent.
Below is a list of characteristics of a sociopath/psychopath. But these qualities may be hidden too…..they’re often lurking just under the surface and all you see in the beginning is a great guy who will do anything to make your life better! That’s what makes them so dangerous.
A lack of shame
Constant lying, manipulation, or attempts at isolation
Ability to remain calm, even in extreme circumstances
Charm, intelligence, huge ego, and immaturity
Uncalled for violent behavior
Micro expressions of anger
Use of intense contact to manipulate
Why do I believe so strongly that Tony is the guy who attempted to make me homeless and ruin my life? Where do I begin…….The guy has a knack for writing anonymous letters. Doxxing….outing a gal in various ways to various people. He also stays very close, chummy, friendly with Law Enforcement and goes to all the neighborhood watch meetings. He keeps abreast of every detail everywhere.
Some of the things written in certain anonymous letters were things that only he knew. He was very interested in every detail of my life. When I talked about something going on in my life, he would turn his head sharply and listen intently. This always struck me as odd, but I brushed it off, thinking I was reading too deeply into his quirky behavior. He was just a weird guy. Harmless. But then I began receiving anonymous letters like this…..to my home……
As most of you know, my real name is Lora . . .I believe he misspelled it intentionally as a distraction. I received many letters like this, portraying my life in a sick, twisted and inaccurate way. I’d love to show you more….but they are just TOO sick. The other letters are much worse. Jaw dropping stuff.
He also sent more professional business like letters out to many different people–a police department, the landlord for my place of business, my teenage daughter’s school, and even the media! They began like this one, five years ago. Due to the amount of personal info in these letters, I am only showing one small paragraph. He described me as a drug dealer and a dangerous, well known Madame, engaging in felonies.
He has also done time (in the 80s) for the rape and kidnapping at gunpoint of an x girlfriend. He obviously has a problem with rejection.
Tony is not his actual name, but the name he’s adopted to stay safe and away from problems. His birth name is Milton Maxwell Gardner. But everywhere in MN, he is known as Tony. (Minnesota people-Does the name Maxwell Beaverbrook ring a bell?)
He only contacts gals who post their phone number on their ads. He will not use email. The way he gets to those of us who only use email only is he sets up an appt with a gal who takes phone calls. Then he asks her if she knows “Hilary” ….she says yes, and he says, “can you please contact Hilary and ask her if it’s ok if I text her? Tell her what a great guy I am please!” She does what he says, I agree and he’s IN! Sort of a reverse verification!
Anyhow, ladies beware. This guy is dangerous and as charming and intelligent as they come. And he LIVES for details….details to bribe you with or use against you in some insane way.
Let’s keep each other safe!