The Erotic Review – My experience
December, 2012. Through my hard work, and good marketing, I was ranked the Number One or Two SW in Minnesota on The Erotic Review. It vacillated between me and an ebony bombshell named Halle Moore. For the year prior, I had been subjected to ongoing attacks on the TER Discussion Boards (primarily the Minnesota Board)–trolls, aliases, other SW’s (no more than six to ten, total) had kept up a steady stream of posts about me, filled with lies, innuendoes, and rumors. I remember a few of the names, the handles…..UpToNoGood11, TurboTed, GoodIntentions, ChicagoCPA, CurvyCat, TallTails…to name a few….who hated me with a passion. At times, I would try to defend myself, or reason with them, but it only seemed to feed the frenzy of the trolls, aliases, and other SW’s. The attacks were not just about me professionally, but had a deep element of the personal about them. My own efforts to discuss this directly with TER administration were fruitless. A few of my friends and supporters also contacted TER Administration to protest that TER was allowing extremely negative, extremely harmful, and extremely untrue, attacking threads about me to be posted. TER’s response was always a variant of “The posts stand.” They didn’t like me, and they made it very obvious. Their responses always began with “Hi”…then some robotic, unemotional verbiage, sometimes a small (or large) hint of HATE and annoyance…… and ending with “Thank you for your support — TER Support Staff. At one point TER themselves sent me a personal DM telling me they didn’t like me and wished I would DELIST myself off of their site. I asked them WHY? No response.
Then I got busted.
The Erotic Review Enables Liars and Trolls
It only took a month–by January of 2013, the Minnesota Discussion Board seemed to constantly have a thread attacking me. For the most part, those posting these untruthful attacks about me were using aliases. The lies expanded–Lies like……I was working with LE, I wasn’t safe to see, I was indiscreetly talking about my clients with anyone who would listen, I wanted other girls (“competition”) to go down, I was calling wives, on and on…..
There were three or four in particular who seemed to be on a cruel mission to destroy me.
I, and others, attempted to defend me, and bring the light of truth to the “discussion.” These attempts failed. We also attempted to protest to TER Administration–“the posts stand.” On top of that, TER would REMOVE posts that defended me. One of my clients tried to post an element of truth about me amidst all these lies, and TER removed the post saying that his post caused fear and paranoia in the community. Yet all the posts about me BEING A COP were staying….(because those posts caused NO fear at all?)
The news media got the story, and for a few weeks, I was subject to a very public process of humiliation and character assassination. The Minnesota Board went wild, swallowing the media accounts whole, just as they had the lies, innuendos, and rumors that had been written about me the previous year.
Then, I gained more information about my bust–I had been subjected to an organized campaign by at least one person, probably more, and this had led to the bust. Anonymous letters had been written to my building’s management, my children’s school. I tried to present this information via the Minnesota Board, but it was useless–the haters continued their attacks. I posted to them on Twitter (my old Twitter account, since closed) in hopes of getting something of a fair hearing for my side. Within minutes, TER Administration decided to de-list me. Not once had they paid any credence to my account of the situation. When the posts about me became obvious train-wrecks, clearly the work of very disturbed individuals, did TER Administration ban the haters? Did they take down the threads? (Occasionally, but not often.) No, The Erotic Review Administration blamed me, and sided with the haters.
In theory, TER is a good idea. Not a great one, but a good one. A community of SW’s and their customers discussing issues, communicating in a public forum. Helpful for both the SW’s and the customers. In practice, a few negative, hating individuals seemed to be able to post anything they wanted (outside the supposed guidelines of posting), and received ongoing passive encouragement from The Erotic Review Administration.
After a few months to get over the trauma of being hated and attacked in such a public forum, one in which I had excelled in the past, I began to both heal, and rebuild my business. All alone with no support from other ladies in my community. All without TER’s help. Yes, I had used TER to help build my great business; yes, TER had stood by and encouraged others as they tried to destroy my great business. But in the end, I rebuilt my business, and it is stronger now than it ever was. Not only did I not need TER, but I have been able, person by person, to show others who had merely watched this from the sidelines that everything that had been posted about me was lies. Seeing me did not lead to getting arrested. Seeing me did not lead to my divulging personal information. Seeing me, in fact, led to a purely pleasurable amount of time spent with someone deeply interested in ensuring that you experienced just what you wanted to experience.
SW’s and True Gentlemen Should Not Support The Erotic Review
And now, I am conflicted when new SW’s come to me and want to know how to get started. In some cases, it does seem that TER is a necessary evil. In those cases, I encourage simply using TER as a means to the end of building business, and then dumping TER. I also have been able to explore other marketing options since TER was not an option. And I have found that TER is a mutant–it allows a few select inmates to run the asylum, and in the long run, very few benefit, and among the very few are even fewer SW’s. Mark my words, it is NOT a lasting and sustainable business model, and they won’t survive unless they change their approach. Most of humanity is a bit more evolved than their archaic, women hating, abusive way of operating. They are allowing a NEGATIVE, vocal minority set the tone and content, rather than letting a positive community develop organically.
So, the The Erotic Review question: would I do it again if I could? No. TER Administration stood by and allowed others, both providers and hobbyists, to engage in dishonest, cruel attacks on my livelihood. I found other, better ways of marketing. It is a personal choice for SW’s as to whether or not they want to use TER. I share my story to allow them to have some accurate information about what they might expect by doing so.